I came from a large family and am the baby of six siblings. My parents always communicated to us that it was a tremendous blessing to have a large family. Another great attribute of growing up in our home was the appreciation of ethnic diversity. My older brothers brought home exchange students from the college for family dinners and we developed friendships with people from all over the world. I particularly remember Si Van, a Cambodian, who was very kind to me. He brought me little gifts and I later understood that I reminded him of his little daughter he had left back home when he came to the United States to obtain his education. Another friend was from Nigeria, and my brother pointed out how much nicer his dark skin looked next to the white turtle neck shirt he wore than our pale skin would look. Another of my brothers sponsored a child from Hong Kong and he and I wrote to each other for many years. This same brother read me chapters of Anne Frank – The Diary of a Young Girl before I went to sleep at night. Anne Frank gave me an appreciation of what it was like to be a young Jewish girl in hiding during the Nazi regime.
When I was a little girl and dreamed of the family I might have someday the many children in my home of dreams had all variations of white, brown and black skin. They came from varied ethnic backgrounds. Evidently way back then I thought about adoption as a great way to have a family. The years came and went and although I did not have a large family, I was blessed to become a mother by adoption.
Adoption teaches me in many ways about the love God has for us as His children. Adoption is referred to in the Scriptures in Romans 8: 15b-17a (NLT)
Instead, your received God’s Spirit when He adopted you as His own children. Now we call Him, “Abba, Father.” For His Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children. And since we are His children, we are His heirs. In fact, together with Christ we are heirs of God’s glory.”
In adoption it matters not whether our child looks like us or has a similar personality. Looks and personality are not prerequisites for my love. Looking at our world it is evident that God loves diversity. Our adopted children are loved for the very same reason a biological child is loved. They are loved because they belong to us – they are our very own. The bonding of our spirits start as a decision to love, and God completes the bond in our heart.
I can say with absolute certainty that I was bonded to my adopted daughter the night I learned about her existence. My first prayers for her were for her own well-being. I did not want to put my desires to be a mother ahead of what she needed most. Only after these first prayers about her alone did I put in my request with God for the honor of being her mother. Exactly three months later she was lovingly placed in my arms. Just like all parents my husband and I exclaimed together, “she’s beautiful!”
There is a famous cartoon in which one child says to another, “most kids are born from their mommies tummies, but since I was adopted, I was born from my mommies heart.”
If God adopts us as His children, adoption is a good, loving and blessed way to add children to our own family.